Personal Growth

Founder and Psychologist

by Dr. Elisha Goldstein

“Our emotions affect our physical heart. We don’t have a social heart emoji that’s separate from our physical heart. When I am hugging a friend or a loved one, our hearts are at ease.” – Dr. Jonathan Fisher

We discuss:

 

     00:00     The Rabbit Effect: Compassion’s Impact on Health
     02:58     Emotional Health and Heart Disease
     05:50     Burnout in Healthcare: A Personal Journey
     09:10     The Physiological Effects of Chronic Stress
     12:06     Building Resilience: Inner and Outer Resources
     14:57     The Science of Laughter and Health
     17:48     Positive Emotions and Heart Health
     36:19     The Power of Generosity and Social Influence
     37:43     Emotional Health and Community Support
     39:03     Understanding Negativity Bias and Positivity Ratios
     40:26     The Impact of Emotional Awareness
     42:19     The Convincing Nature of Negative Thoughts
     43:43     The Role of Attention in Emotional Well-being
     45:10     Mindfulness and Attention Regulation
     47:02     Practices for Strengthening Attention
     49:24     The Importance of Body Awareness
     51:13     Mindfulness Beyond the Mind
     53:05     Clearing Mental Residue Between Interactions
     55:36     Setting Boundaries for Emotional Health
     57:58     The Challenge of Saying No
     1:00:50  The Importance of Self-Worth in Boundaries
    1:03:43   Lessons from ‘Just One Heart’ Book
    1:06:27   The Connection Between Emotions and Heart Health
    1:08:55    Final Thoughts on Compassion and Connection
 

SHOWNOTES

In today’s fast-paced world, where stress and burnout have become common, we often overlook the profound connection between our emotional health and our physical well-being. Dr. Jonathan Fisher, a Harvard-trained cardiologist, and author of Just One Heart, joins me in this thought-provoking conversation about how emotional health can directly influence heart health, longevity, and overall well-being.

 

The Rabbit Effect: The Healing Power of Compassion

 

We begin with an intriguing story from 1978 that highlights the power of compassion on physical health – The Rabbit Effect. In a heart study conducted by Dr. Robert Narum, a small group of rabbits fed the same high-fat, high-cholesterol diet showed 60% fewer blockages in their heart arteries. Why? Because these rabbits received compassionate care: they were petted, spoken to, and loved before their meals. The scientific breakthrough from this experiment suggests that compassion can have a powerful, protective effect on heart health, which became the foundation for Dr. Fisher’s book.

 

Compassion and Burnout: The Role of Emotional Health

 

Dr. Fisher shares his personal experience with burnout as a physician. Despite being a dedicated cardiologist, he found himself overwhelmed by the emotional toll of caring for others without tending to his own emotional well-being. As he reflects, “I had my own unaddressed emotional wounds,” which compounded the stress of his demanding career. Over time, he discovered that healing doesn’t just come from medical treatment but from addressing the emotional, social, and spiritual health of both patients and providers.


We dive into the physiological effects of chronic stress, which impacts the heart and mind. Research has shown that when we’re stressed, the body reacts by increasing heart rate and blood pressure, preparing us for action. However, if this stress becomes chronic, it can damage our organs and hinder emotional resilience.

 

Healing Through Laughter and Connection

 

Laughter, as simple as it sounds, can also be a powerful healing tool. Dr. Fisher shares how laughter yoga can trigger the release of oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine – the “feel-good” hormones that lower stress and improve heart function.

“When we laugh, our heart rate slows down, blood pressure drops, and our breathing deepens” – Dr. Jonathan Fisher


These positive physiological effects of laughter help us reset and build resilience against the stresses of life. Building deeper, more meaningful connections with others, Dr. Fisher argues, is essential for heart health and emotional longevity. It’s not just about avoiding stress, but actively nurturing relationships that bring joy and support. Whether it’s through laughter or genuine compassion, these connections become the foundation of a longer, healthier life.

 

Setting Boundaries: Protecting Your Emotional Health

 

Dr. Fisher also addresses the challenge of setting boundaries—something many of us struggle with in both personal and professional settings. “The hardest part is not the setting of the boundary; it’s the fear of the repercussions of setting it,” he admits. He shares how saying “no” to work-related requests, for example, was a crucial part of his journey to emotional and physical health.


Empathy for others is important, but we also need to have empathy for our own needs – Dr. Jonathan Fisher

 

The Science Behind Emotional Contagion

 

The conversation continues to explore emotional contagion—the idea that emotions are contagious, both positive and negative. “Generosity and kindness spread, just like negativity,” Dr. Fisher notes. Positive emotions can create ripple effects, improving our mood, health, and relationships. This highlights the importance of creating an environment filled with compassion and positivity—not just for our own health, but to help others thrive too.


The Intersection of Mindfulness and Emotional Health

 

Dr. Fisher emphasizes that mindfulness—being present and aware—can help manage negative emotions and cultivate compassion. “Mindfulness isn’t about thinking more,” he shares. It’s about being more in tune with your body.” He discusses the simple practices that have supported him through tough times, like focusing on his breath or noticing tension in his body during stressful moments. These practices have helped him shift his focus away from the negative and back toward what’s nourishing and life-affirming.


A Heartfelt Conclusion

 

The heart, both physically and emotionally, is central to our well-being. As Dr. Fisher concludes, “The only way forward from this conflicted time is to overcome negativity bias, to realize that we are one, and to embrace compassion.” The story of the rabbits, the healing power of laughter, and the importance of boundaries and self-compassion all remind us that emotional health is the key to a long, vibrant life.


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