21 Days of Purpose: A Free eCourse for Uncovering Happiness

You have a purpose in being here…
… and part of that is remembering that
you are part of something much larger than yourself.

Science and thousands of years of human experience are showing us a feeling of connection to something greater than ourselves gives us a heightened sense of well-being and resiliency. In short, it’s a natural antidepressant.

I want to invite you to an experiment based on practices in my new book, Uncovering Happiness, that can help you nurture this positive shift in your brain and positively impact the world around you.

Over the next 21 days you’ll be guided through something very simple and profound; discovering a prosocial purpose and turning your purpose into a verb.

The structure for this is loose; there is nothing strict or rigid about this program. The intention of the following 21 days is to deepen your connection to purpose and compassion in your own life and get some support in the process.

Each day you’ll receive a writing to reflect on to light up the compassionate brain. You’ll then be reminded of these three key questions from Uncovering Happiness to help keep you focused and on track:

  1. What pro-social purpose are you involved in?
  2. What action can I take today that is in line with this purpose?
  3. What is this action in service of that is greater than myself?

I recommend weaving in some of the attitudes of play from Uncovering Happiness in order not to get overly serious about the whole endeavor, see it more from a learning lens and make it a playful endeavor.

A very wise woman once told me,
If something is valuable, give it away.

That may sound strange, but I understand what she means. As we give away what is valuable, we inevitably get back something invaluable.

If you’re wondering what that is, take a leap to commit to 21 Days of Purpose and discover it for yourself.

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You can try this experiment on your own, or it can be fun to do with friends. Let others know what you’re up to and see the ripple effects of a group doing 21 Days of Purpose together. Share it:

We are asking people to reflect on their experiences here to let us know how it’s going. Feel free to post about the purpose your engaging, or write about it on your own blog. Comments here are welcome from anyone.


  1. Sam Gentile
    May 4, 2015 at 12:06 pm

    Day 11 and I am going to take the theme of the days email and use Connection. For my action I am going to call my brother Mark who I haven’t talked to in years and there has been tension between us. I am going to see how he is doing after moving to North Carolina today. In Service of both of us plus my value of strong family

    • Elisha Goldstein
      May 4, 2015 at 3:27 pm

      Wishing you well in the connecting with your brother and your pro-social purpose.

  2. Susan M
    May 4, 2015 at 6:40 am

    At day 7, which is a Monday public holiday in the UK, I’ve been able to enjoy some quite time reflecting on how I steer towards purpose in the minutiae of every day decisions. I want to make more impact on my distractibility in the small moments of my life. I will spend time with friends this evening and am back to work tomorrow, and am aiming to focus more mindfully on being prosocial in my engagement with those who are part of my daily life.

    • Elisha Goldstein
      May 4, 2015 at 8:05 am

      It’s those small moments that make up our lifetime and bringing mindfulness to them can be very empowering.

  3. Sam Gentile
    May 3, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Day 10 and I used the theme of kindness from the reminder. So my prosocial behavior was kindnesses and the action was to be kind to my wife all day. I know it’s materialistic but I got up from my depressed self and went and bought her a new kitchen table and then brought her to lunch. I was kind to her instead of the usual fighting. Service was for my wife to extend kindness and for my intentions of a strong family.

    • Elisha Goldstein
      May 4, 2015 at 8:02 am

      It certainly sounds like kindness motivated your Sunday, both in actions to your wife and the positives effects spreading to your family.

  4. Sam Gentile
    May 2, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    Day 9 and the email reminds of Kindness which I exhibited today but my main prosocial behavior was Play which is also a natural antidepressant. I took Heather my 12 year old to the park and played. First we ran a 1/2 mile loop together and then played on the equipment. I also took her to have Sushi. The service was for my daughter and also in service of my other Value, Strong Family.

    One thing I want to ask you about is that I get real uptight when it comes to leave for play. My daughter takes a while to get ready and I just want to go and get all nervous. It’s almost that I want to get it over with log in my journal and here. What do you think?

    • Elisha Goldstein
      May 4, 2015 at 7:55 am

      Sounds like a great Saturday with your daughter! About feeling uptight before play – what do you think is causing it? Do you need to give yourself permission to play or do you think it’s more anxiety building while you’re waiting?

  5. Susan M
    April 30, 2015 at 1:59 pm

    This is day 3 for me. I work in health and social care and have a strong orientation towards prosocial purpose. But in my daily hurly burly I’m pulled off course sometimes. Shame can inhibit me from reflecting with curiosity about how it was that I was distracted away from purpose. An example from this week – I gossiped in a disrespectful way about some colleagues. Momentarily I felt bonded with the person I was gossiping with. But overall my actions were not motivated by compassion and understanding. Imagining what it would be like if I was living a life that was more orientated to my values, I am aiming to pay closer attention when I go off course and try to discern how I help myself to steer a steadier course.

    • Elisha Goldstein
      April 30, 2015 at 6:27 pm

      Welcome Susan, that awareness is the first step toward moving toward living and speaking in alignment with your values. Like much deep personal work, it is an on-going practice.

  6. Sam Gentile
    April 30, 2015 at 11:14 am

    Day 7 and today’s prosocial behavior is Compassion and Strong Family. The action is not react when my wife says something irritating. This in service of our family to stop the arguing

    • Elisha Goldstein
      April 30, 2015 at 6:22 pm

      Mindfulness indeed.

  7. Sam Gentile
    April 29, 2015 at 12:15 pm

    Day 6 and my prosocial behavior as identified in Step 5 is Mindfulness
    1. Did Mindful Check ins during the day
    2. Did 30 minute Mindful Meditation
    Service – its obviously in service of myself and my depression program but also my family to be calmer and more compassionate

  8. Sam Gentile
    April 28, 2015 at 12:34 pm

    Prosocial behavior today is Compassion again. The action I took today is to post one more Facebook post for getting help to Nepal. This is in service of all the people suffering in Nepal.

  9. Sam Gentile
    April 27, 2015 at 10:00 am

    Day 4 and I am also working on my purpose of my relationship to my family and Strong Family.
    So today’s prosocial behavior is Strong Family
    Action iss to help my daughter with her homework without getting mad. I usually want to keep reading Buddhist books and not get interrupted.
    Service of Heather so she may feel good and family dynamics

    • Elisha Goldstein
      April 28, 2015 at 9:02 am

      That sounds like a positive action toward today’s pro-social purpose.

  10. Sam Gentile
    April 26, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Day 3 and I am focusing on the prosocial behavior of Compassion and Altruism
    1. Have compassion and Meta for the victims of the earthquake in Nepal
    2. Raise awareness for people to contribute relief money by posting to my Facebook account
    3. Made generous donation via GlobalGiving.org
    Action in service of others who have been affected by this tragedy

    • Elisha Goldstein
      April 27, 2015 at 8:16 am

      I think many of us are deeply feeling the catastrophic impact of the earthquake in Nepal, it sounds like you have been making some very compassionate efforts on behalf of the people of Nepal. Thank you.

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