On this page you will find articles, free audio and video, and other resources that may give you tips on working toward healing and growth. Whether you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, or addictive behaviors, no matter the struggles you come here with, this is a place for you to get some tips to support you.
Tuesday, February 9, 2016 · 6 Comments
I often say if there’s two things in life that we can’t evade aside from death and taxes, it’s stress and pain. Suffering is a part of life, but the mindset we layer over it makes all the difference.
I have so many examples in my life, and you may as well, where a difficult time was upon me and that very time was the seed which brought on the growth of the next moment.
The reality is, we never truly know whether an experience in life is good or bad because we don’t know what’s going to happen next.
In Uncovering Happiness I write about how the deepest, darkest moment of my life was exactly what inevitably opened my mind to seeking out support that led me to where I am today. It was this very experience, and many more like it, that led me to seek out mindfulness, which Continue Reading →
Friday, January 29, 2016 · 2 Comments
We all have difficult people in our lives, it’s part of the human experience. Typically, we tend to see them as a nuisance, someone I have to put up with, or even avoid. This also comes with it’s suffering. I’m not familiar with the author of the quote above, but the message is worth being curious about.
What if we could change our perception to seeing the difficult people in our lives as messengers or teachers that arouse something inside of us that needs to be cared for or loved?
If we do this, might we become less reactive toward ourselves and other people and inevitably won’t this give a chance for more relationships to improve? Might it be easier to let go of bitter grudges and move toward strengthening mindfulness, self-compassion and forgiveness? This isn’t Pollyana, it’s a practical approach that can help us focus more on what matters in life.
But consider this, if relationships improve, might that support communities, regions and countries to improve?
Is it possible to set off a spark in this way that leads to not only the healing of our being, but the healing of humanity?
Whoa, that’s a bit too large to swallow perhaps, so let’s just begin with today and ourselves.
Today, try this…
Thursday, January 21, 2016 · Leave a comment
Even though I have an awareness of my relationship to my smartphone, even though I take measures to limit my use, even though I have strong boundaries with my kids around their usage, if you asked me whether I feel like I have a handle on my relationship to it, I’d give you an unequivocal NO!
The more I talk to people about their relationship to their tech, the greater sense of belonging I feel. For most people, every time they see someone reach for their phone there’s a bell that goes off in the mind that creates an urge to grab their phone. Every time they’re slowing down or waiting anywhere, the idea or urge to check the phone arises. Like an addiction, I know this is unhealthy and yet with all my mindfulness and with all the techniques out there, I struggle with this too.
At last I’m finally understanding what this is all about and what to do about it.
Monday, January 11, 2016 · Leave a comment
Many of us have set New Year’s intentions to be more compassionate, but like the mainstream spread of mindfulness, it’s often something that’s more talked about than practiced.
But let this be the moment where we all dig deep from wherever we are to do small things every day to restore a sense of humanity in this world. Really, what would the world be like if we all were more connected with the understanding that we’re all in this together. We all want to feel accepted, understood, cared about, that sense of belonging.
Allow this video to be a small moment of inspiration:
We can all do small things that are focused on daily giving. Here are 10 ideas, or use your own, mix it up it infuses novelty, creativity and fun:
Thursday, December 3, 2015 · 4 Comments
The holidays are well under way and what comes with that is the inevitable holiday stress! It can be a not-so-merry time for parents–kids are out of their normal routine, hyped-up on sugar and grumpy after being up too late at holiday parties! Instead of soothing and calming your nerves this year with sugar cookies and candy canes, one of my favorite mindful eating experts and New York Bestselling author, Dr. Susan Albers, recommends these 9 natural techniques from her new book, 50 More Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food.
Treat these following 9 techniques as an experiment and see what you learn along the way:
1) Ho-Ho-Ho Meditation: Holidays are stressful and a recipe for stress eating. Close your eyes and do 3 Santa Clause like belly laughs—this is a simple laughing yoga exercise. Laughing yoga has been shown to reduce your cortisol level, the stress hormone that makes you crave sugary, fatty, salty foods. Creating a moment of laughter can be as simple as googling “funny baby videos” or “viral videos” on youtube.
2) Tea Time. Bye-bye pumpkin lattes! Sip Cinnamon tea. Cinnamon is clinically shown to help regulate your blood sugar which can help to avoid sugary treats. Also, the scent of cinnamon is calming and a sweet, calorie free reminder of the holiday.
3) Munch Well. Does simply chewing on something make you feel better? Try gnawing on leftover pumpkin seeds that you dry and roast. Not only is this chewy and will satisfy your need to munch, it contains L-tryptophan which helps to naturally combat depression and the blues.