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Thursday, April 7, 2016 · Leave a comment
In 2010, when A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook was about to be published I stepped into my publisher and right there on the wall were printouts of dozens of covers for all the new mindfulness books coming out in the next year. In that moment I said, “Oh no, mindfulness is going to get watered down and people are going to get turned off to it.”
Well, that didn’t happen, but something else has…
The Current Mindful Wave – Shallow Waters are Noisy
Science and technology have brought on the dawn of delivering mindfulness in a million different ways. The options are endless at this point, you can access mindful learning through a variety of apps at your finger tips, you can pick through various meditations or find an ever expanding list of self-paced pre-recorded courses online, you can find it live online and if you’re lucky you can find a local group to access in-person. You can learn it in businesses, schools, healthcare companies, Buddhist centers and in secular meditation studios popping up all over the country.
In many ways this is so incredible, but in the process it seems like the stage of mindfulness has reached a point there’s a lot of “mindful noise” out there that has the potential of making it difficult to decipher what the practice is anymore, who is credible and where to start or continue.
For example, learning mindfulness is not just about sitting down and practicing mindfulness. There are other important factors to weave in to optimize the integration of the practice in daily life. One example is the essential need to take the time and space to learn how to create calm and stability in our minds in preparation to settling into many of the practices that are just being offered through most apps and programs out there. It’s like telling someone to get on an untamed horse and just ride. This usually doesn’t go well.
As a result, many people have difficulty truly realizing the fruits of the practice in any enduring way for themselves and in relationships.
The Next Mindful Wave – Still Waters Run Deep
Thursday, March 17, 2016 · Leave a comment
It’s as if someone from the outside has decided to play a cruel joke on a large segment of humanity. From the outside looking in they’re saying, “Let’s turn up the dial and increase the speed of life for these humans and see how much they can take before they naturally combust.”
We’ve fallen into a trance of sorts where there’s some warped shared understanding that to be busy means we are productive members of society, needed and important. This is supposed to then make us feel good, but at the end of the day it comes with a terrible expense – increased stress, anxiety, depression, cellular inflammation and less time, value for play and taking care of ourselves.
The reality is, if we want to increase the general well-being of our culture we need to stop the glorification of busy. Can we begin to accept that it’s also okay to lead a calmer and more joyful life?
Can we practice and learn to see others who are doing this, taking time for themselves, playing and finding enjoyment in life and rather than meeting them with judgment, practice seeing their joy and being happy for their happiness?
Ask yourself, what would the days, weeks and months ahead be like if there were more people who were encouraging of and genuinely happy for the good moments you experience in life? How would that make you feel? And how would it make you feel if you felt genuinely happy for Continue Reading →
Sunday, March 6, 2016 · Leave a comment
Mark Twain once said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
But what if we had a way to shrink those worries in just one minute?
You likely have the worry in this moment and I’m going to point you to something that can help alleviate it for now.
You are going to put your stressful thought in a star…
Then just relax your body and watch it drift away…
You’ll breathe in…
Then breathe out…
You’ll start to understand that you’re like is okay and that sense the reality of this thought in the grand scheme of things.
This is called Pixel Thoughts, give it 60 seconds and see what you notice.
Tuesday, February 23, 2016 · 2 Comments
We’ve all experienced it. It’s the moment we say something and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out we put our foot in our mouths and reaches to take them back, but it’s too late. The fact is we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps. But what if I told you there’s a way to fix this.
Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke we considered three questions:
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- Is it kind?
These a questions that one might say are inspired by the world’s wisdom traditions and have great relevance to our relationships in our families, friendships, business, and education today.
In this emerging world where we’re quick to fire off texts, tweets, Snapchats and Facebook messages, it might be more important than ever to Continue Reading →
Tuesday, February 16, 2016 · 1 Comment
Life is a practice and what you choose to practice is what will make up your character. It’s worth considering what you value in life and then making an intention and plan to live alongside those values. This is the direct back to living Ghandi’s words, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
Consider how simple it really is:
If you want to be more grateful in life, practice being grateful.
If you want to be confident, practice confidence.
If you want to be more mindful, practice mindfulness.
If you want to be more loving, practice loving yourself and others.
If you want to be more forgiving and let go of stress-laden emotional burdens, practice forgiveness.
If you want to live essential happiness ingredients such as compassion and generosity, practice compassion and generosity.
With this said, no one said it’s going to be easy. We are all blessed with this negativity bias in our brains that has kept us alert enough to negative and fearful cues to survive this long as a species.
However, this negativity bias steps too far and infringes on us doing what we know inside is the direct path to happiness and well-being. It Continue Reading →