On this page you will find articles, free audio and video, and other resources that may give you tips on working toward healing and growth. Whether you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, or addictive behaviors, no matter the struggles you come here with, this is a place for you to get some tips to support you.
Tuesday, June 7, 2016 · 1 Comment
In the United States we’re heading into a potential turbulent political atmosphere that has the potential to be disrupting to even our closet relationships.
You may remember from past elections, it’s that moment we say something about some candidate or issue and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out that we have just ignited a fire that we won’t be able to put out. The fact is, especially when something is emotionally charged, we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps.
But there’s a way to optimize the way we communicate in this political climate.
Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke about politics we considered three questions:
Tuesday, May 24, 2016 · 2 Comments
Everyone at some point in their life will be affected by depression whether it’s their own or someone they are close to. Almost 19 million Americans alone have periods where they feel a lack of pleasure or interest their usual activities combined with feeling tired and heavy, potentially overly emotional or numb, and an onslaught of negative and self defeating thoughts that can keep invading the mind over and over again.
The more periods of this depressed mood we have in life, the more likely we are to fall back into them again. Why does this relapse occur and how can mindfulness offer hope?
Falling into a depression feels traumatic and just like getting bit by a dog causes us to be fearful of and oversensitive to dogs, our minds and bodies become oversensitive to associations with the depression causing us to react to any sign of it. Feeling low mood is normal for everyone, but if we’ve experienced depression in the past, this may be a trigger for thinking depression is about to set in again.
If we feel tired or if we notice sadness, the mind pops up with the worry “uh oh, that is how I felt when I was Continue Reading →
Tuesday, May 10, 2016 · 2 Comments
Vietnamese Buddhist monk and author Thich Nhat Hanh once said, “Peace in oneself, peace in the world.” Iconic singer and songwriter Michael Jackson wrote, “I’m lookin’ at the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer, if you wanna make the world a better place, just look at yourself and make a change.”
In The Now Effect you may have read about the science behind why everything you do matters,
The social scientists Nicholas Christakis, MD, PhD, and James Fowler, PhD, conducted a study to look at the effect of social networks. To determine if there was a causal relationship for obesity, they mapped the relationships of 12,067 people who had more than 50,000 connections to other people that were assessed repeatedly from 1971 to 2003 (not online social networks such as Facebook but physical networks of people). They found that, indeed, “birds of a feather flock together.” However, they found something much more interesting: obesity doesn’t start and stop with immediate friends and family; it is “contagious” by up to three degrees of separation.
They also went on to find that loneliness is contagious by three degrees and that each person you have in your life Continue Reading →
Wednesday, May 4, 2016 · 8 Comments
There’s a funny print cartoon that has a man and woman sitting on the couch staring at a TV screen and the caption below reads, “It’s 12 O’clock, do you know where your mind is?” As time goes on and we grow up from children to adolescents to adults, for many of us, somewhere along the way life begins to become routine. Day in and day out whether we’re walking, driving, talking, eating, going to the grocery store, or being with our families our minds get kicked onto auto-pilot and continue to develop their habitual ways of thinking, interpreting, expecting, and relating to other people.
However, these habits also include habits of mind that can keep us stuck in stress, anxiety, depression, or even addictive behaviors. Here are a few habits of the mind and a mindfulness practice to help you break out of auto-pilot and gain more control over your life.
Three Common Habits that Sink Happiness:
- Catastrophizing – If you’re prone to stress and anxiety, you may recognize this habitual mind trap. This is where the mind interprets an event as the worst case scenario. If your heart is beating fast, you may think you’re having a heart attack. If your boss didn’t look at you while walking down the hall, you thinking you’re going to get fired. You get the picture. This style of thinking will support increased stress, anxiety, and even panic.
- Discounting the positive and exaggerating the negative – The news is wonderful at supporting us with this one. This is where we habitually reject or Continue Reading →
Tuesday, April 26, 2016 · Leave a comment
Some days are just bad days where we wish we could give up this whole adult charade, go to recess and get back to when times a bit simpler.
Can I get and “Amen?”
Life seems to get too serious as an adult, more responsibilities mean more worries, more stress and more body aches.
I’ve spoken to hundreds of people about this exact issue and posed the question, “What does play mean to you?” Sadly, often times the response is a blank look as if the term “play” is a foreign word.
Then I ask them to remember what play was like when they were kids. Many people remember play as an unstructured time where they were engaged in something, interesting, enjoyable and satisfying.
Even just this reflection can begin to kindle the flames of play, you can try it out right now to see what I mean.
If you can get like me at times where I feel like giving up adulthood, then I ask you, “What would the days, weeks and months ahead be like if Continue Reading →