On this page you will find articles, free audio and video, and other resources that may give you tips on working toward healing and growth. Whether you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, or addictive behaviors, no matter the struggles you come here with, this is a place for you to get some tips to support you.
Tuesday, October 20, 2015 · 3 Comments
Ajahn Chah was the spiritual teacher to many leading mindfulness teachers. He had a wonderful saying when it comes to being present in life, “It’s like this.” This saying always stuck with me as a great truth and a way to bring me back to the moment when my mind was spinning due to something stressful or difficult. In 2011, I realized that not only is “it like this,” but my mind would quickly begin swimming again and I would then say, “ah, and this too.” When I said, “and this too,” it brought be back once again to being here.
However, recently I found a new, practical and powerful use for the phrase, “It’s like this…and this too” that has everything to do with cultivating perspective and happiness.
It’s like this…
There’s nothing like an uncomfortable emotion of negative stress, anxiety, sadness, anger, shame, guilt or disgust to get the head spinning. It’s natural, the brain is trying to figure out how to balance us. So it jumps to the future thinking of worst case scenarios so we can be prepared or it ruminates on all the negative facts of the past so it use our history to mine for optimal decisions. This auto-pilot mental looping at best keeps us stuck or at worst exacerbates the difficulty.
Wednesday, September 30, 2015 · Leave a comment
One of the essential commonalities we have as human beings as that at some point or another we all experience some form of suffering. This isn’t meant to be a downer, it’s simply a fact of being human. Today, you’re going to hear from an incredible woman, Toni Bernhard. She is the author of the award-winning book How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers and How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Her newest book is called How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness: A Mindful Guide. She also writes a great blog called, “Turning Straw Into Gold.“
Today Toni talks to us about why the path to peace begins with facing difficulty realities, how mindfulness can help with chronic pain and illness, and some of the key lessons she’s learned.
Elisha: How is this book different from your other book on chronic pain and illness, How to Be Sick?
Toni: The new book is broader in scope than How to Be Sick, and it’s organized differently. How to Be Sick is organized around concepts and practices to help people learn to live with grace and purpose despite the limitations imposed by their health.
By contrast, the new book is organized around specific difficulties and challenges that people face, such as dealing with others who don’t (or refuse to) understand; making the best use of your short time with the doctor; coping with isolation and loneliness; handling mood swings and painful emotions; the difficult challenge of being young and chronically ill. The new book goes beyond my personal experience because I draw on the thousands of people who’ve written to me about their health struggles.
What the books have in common is a liberal use of personal anecdotes, easy-to-learn practices (such as mindfulness and self-compassion), and my conversational style of writing. People tell me they feel as if we’re sitting in the kitchen together chatting over coffee or tea.
Elisha: In the introduction, you say the path to peace begins with facing life’s stark realities. What do you mean by that?
Toni: I’m referring to some of the inescapable realities of the human condition. First of all, we’re in bodies and they get sick and injured and old. Coming to terms with this opens the door to Continue Reading →
Friday, September 18, 2015 · Leave a comment
As a Dad of 3 young boys I’m always interested in what the latest research says on how we should be introducing screens to our kids. Screens are a part of daily life now for almost everyone, they’re not going away, nor should they. Most adults don’t have a good handle on their screen use, so it’s easy to wonder how can we even be a model to our kids? Even so, knowledge is power and so I want to share some interesting research with you that gives some answers to the question:
Is it possible to overstimulate the developing brain?
Dmitri Christakis is a pediatrician, parent and researcher who had looked into this quite a bit. He reminds us that watching screens not too long ago wasn’t something we introduced to kids until later in life. At the moment, the average 5 year old is engaged with screens about 4 hours per day.
Additionally, the content they are exposed to is far more fast paced then ever which keeps them engaged, but can have major negative impacts on their ability to pay attention. Compare past programs like Mr. Rogers with current cartoon programs like Pokemon or Powder Puff Girls.
In a Tedx talk Christakis says, “Prolonged exposure to rapid change can pre-condition the mind to expect high levels of input which leads to inattention later on in life. “
Here’s the Tedx talk to watch (Warning: Images will not be rapidly changing, so if your brain has had prolonged exposure to screens you may not have the attention span to watch this – just kidding – sort of).
Thursday, September 10, 2015 · 6 Comments
Let’s start with the bottom line:
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) has been shown to be equally as effective in preventing relapse as anti-depressant medication.
This came from a study conducted at the University of Exeter where researchers randomly assigned 424 people into a group simply taking anti-depressant medication and another group going through an 8-week MBCT course. In this course participants learned mindfulness skills, how to relate to negative thoughts differently, and how to recognize signs of relapse and take action.
The MBCT group were offered four follow-up sessions within the year and after two years many had tapered off the medication.
The results found that the relapse was similar (44% for MBCT group and 47% for anti-depressant medication group).
This doesn’t mean that if you’re on anti-depressant medication you should get off of it, but it does provide hope that we have the power within us to train our brain with natural anti-depressants.
These are incredibly hopeful and encouraging results and it’s been accepted as a primary intervention for depression in England and Wales.
The Bad News
MBCT is still hard to find for a lot of people. While an increasing amount of people are being trained in it, it’s still largely unavailable to many of us.
The Good News
More Good News: Building Natural Anti-Depressants.
Tuesday, September 1, 2015 · 1 Comment
The rise of mindfulness has been incredible.
In part it seems like many of us are responding to a radical fast pace of living where we’re in a constant state of doing, doing and doing some more and and longing for something to help us create balance in our lives. The answer has been a variety of mindfulness programs with a heavy emphasis of “being” to balance out the “doing.”
Mindfulness is a fundamental skill for anyone in this day and age and yet at the same time it can go too far.
In the formal practices of mindfulness we do meditative exercises like breathing meditation, the body scan, or an open awareness practice. All of these focus on training the brain to “be with” experience. We need this training because the alternative is the brain’s default to try and fix our stress by kicking into auto-pilot and constantly planning in the future or looking to the past to figure out the present.
This juggle between the past and future only stresses our mind and body more. Learning how to “be with” helps turn the volume down on all this thinking and can often bring us into a state of balance.
Sometimes this state of balance teaches us important lessons, like in life all things come and go, otherwise known as the law of Continue Reading →