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On this page you will find articles, free audio and video, and other resources that may give you tips on working toward healing and growth. Whether you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, or addictive behaviors, no matter the struggles you come here with, this is a place for you to get some tips to support you.


Three Common Mind Traps that Sink Happiness

There’s a funny print cartoon that has a man and woman sitting on the couch staring at a TV screen and the caption below reads, “It’s 12 O’clock, do you know where your mind is?” As time goes on and we grow up from children to adolescents to adults, for many of us, somewhere along the way life begins to become routine. Day in and day out whether we’re walking, driving, talking, eating, going to the grocery store, or being with our families our minds get kicked onto auto-pilot and continue to develop their habitual ways of thinking, interpreting, expecting, and relating to other people.

However, these habits also include habits of mind that can keep us stuck in stress, anxiety, depression, or even addictive behaviors.  Here are a few habits of the mind and a mindfulness practice to help you break out of auto-pilot and gain more control over your life.

Three Common Habits that Sink Happiness:

  1. Catastrophizing – If you’re prone to stress and anxiety, you may recognize this habitual mind trap. This is where the mind interprets an event as the worst case scenario. If your heart is beating fast, you may think you’re having a heart attack. If your boss didn’t look at you while walking down the hall, you thinking you’re going to get fired. You get the picture. This style of thinking will support increased stress, anxiety, and even panic.
  2. Discounting the positive and exaggerating the negative – The news is wonderful at supporting us with this one. This is where we habitually reject or Continue Reading →


Have a Worry? This Can Shrink It (At Least for Now)

Mark Twain once said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

But what if we had a way to shrink those worries in just one minute?

You likely have the worry in this moment and I’m going to point you to something that can help alleviate it for now.

You are going to put your stressful thought in a star…

Then just relax your body and watch it drift away…

You’ll breathe in…

Then breathe out…

You’ll start to understand that you’re like is okay and that sense the reality of this thought in the grand scheme of things.

This is called Pixel Thoughts, give it 60 seconds and see what you notice.

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Practice the Change You Wish to See in the World

piglet gratitudeLife is a practice and what you choose to practice is what will make up your character. It’s worth considering what you value in life and then making an intention and plan to live alongside those values. This is the direct back to living Ghandi’s words, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”

Consider how simple it really is:

If you want to be more grateful in life, practice being grateful.

If you want to be confident, practice confidence.

If you want to be more mindful, practice mindfulness.

If you want to be more loving, practice loving yourself and others.

If you want to be more forgiving and let go of stress-laden emotional burdens, practice forgiveness.

If you want to live essential happiness ingredients such as compassion and generosity, practice compassion and generosity.

With this said, no one said it’s going to be easy. We are all blessed with this negativity bias in our brains that has kept us alert enough to negative and fearful cues to survive this long as a species.

However, this negativity bias steps too far and infringes on us doing what we know inside is the direct path to happiness and well-being. It Continue Reading →


The True Upside of Hard Times

buried and planted

I often say if there’s two things in life that we can’t evade aside from death and taxes, it’s stress and pain. Suffering is a part of life, but the mindset we layer over it makes all the difference.

I have so many examples in my life, and you may as well, where a difficult time was upon me and that very time was the seed which brought on the growth of the next moment.

The reality is, we never truly know whether an experience in life is good or bad because we don’t know what’s going to happen next.

In Uncovering Happiness I write about how the deepest, darkest moment of my life was exactly what inevitably opened my mind to seeking out support that led me to where I am today. It was this very experience, and many more like it, that led me to seek out mindfulness, which Continue Reading →