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Tuesday, April 26, 2016 · Leave a comment
Some days are just bad days where we wish we could give up this whole adult charade, go to recess and get back to when times a bit simpler.
Can I get and “Amen?”
Life seems to get too serious as an adult, more responsibilities mean more worries, more stress and more body aches.
I’ve spoken to hundreds of people about this exact issue and posed the question, “What does play mean to you?” Sadly, often times the response is a blank look as if the term “play” is a foreign word.
Then I ask them to remember what play was like when they were kids. Many people remember play as an unstructured time where they were engaged in something, interesting, enjoyable and satisfying.
Even just this reflection can begin to kindle the flames of play, you can try it out right now to see what I mean.
If you can get like me at times where I feel like giving up adulthood, then I ask you, “What would the days, weeks and months ahead be like if Continue Reading →
Friday, April 22, 2016 · Leave a comment
We’re wired to take things for granted and this earth that sustains and supports us all is no exception.
It’s quite wonderful that we have a day to celebrate the earth and at the same time it would be even more wonderful if we could wake up with that awareness every day. The implicit connection and gratitude associated with it are associated with resiliency and well-being.
Drop your shoulders, settle in, here is a meditation for the Earth… enjoy!
7 Step Meditation to Start Your (Earth) Day
- First, start off by sitting in a comfortable position, close your eyes, and take a few deep breaths.
- Consider what the world needs more of – More kindness, reverence for nature, protecting life on this planet, thriving wildlife and rainforests that continue to produce beauty for our eyes and oxygen to survive.
- Consider what the world needs less of – Global stress, human disconnection, over consumption, over fishing, world hunger, maybe pollution.
- Sense your connection to this planet – Remember you were born on this planet and it is this very planet that sustains you. and how you will eventually be released back to the earth.
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Thursday, April 7, 2016 · Leave a comment
In 2010, when A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook was about to be published I stepped into my publisher and right there on the wall were printouts of dozens of covers for all the new mindfulness books coming out in the next year. In that moment I said, “Oh no, mindfulness is going to get watered down and people are going to get turned off to it.”
Well, that didn’t happen, but something else has…
The Current Mindful Wave – Shallow Waters are Noisy
Science and technology have brought on the dawn of delivering mindfulness in a million different ways. The options are endless at this point, you can access mindful learning through a variety of apps at your finger tips, you can pick through various meditations or find an ever expanding list of self-paced pre-recorded courses online, you can find it live online and if you’re lucky you can find a local group to access in-person. You can learn it in businesses, schools, healthcare companies, Buddhist centers and in secular meditation studios popping up all over the country.
In many ways this is so incredible, but in the process it seems like the stage of mindfulness has reached a point there’s a lot of “mindful noise” out there that has the potential of making it difficult to decipher what the practice is anymore, who is credible and where to start or continue.
For example, learning mindfulness is not just about sitting down and practicing mindfulness. There are other important factors to weave in to optimize the integration of the practice in daily life. One example is the essential need to take the time and space to learn how to create calm and stability in our minds in preparation to settling into many of the practices that are just being offered through most apps and programs out there. It’s like telling someone to get on an untamed horse and just ride. This usually doesn’t go well.
As a result, many people have difficulty truly realizing the fruits of the practice in any enduring way for themselves and in relationships.
The Next Mindful Wave – Still Waters Run Deep
Thursday, March 17, 2016 · Leave a comment
It’s as if someone from the outside has decided to play a cruel joke on a large segment of humanity. From the outside looking in they’re saying, “Let’s turn up the dial and increase the speed of life for these humans and see how much they can take before they naturally combust.”
We’ve fallen into a trance of sorts where there’s some warped shared understanding that to be busy means we are productive members of society, needed and important. This is supposed to then make us feel good, but at the end of the day it comes with a terrible expense – increased stress, anxiety, depression, cellular inflammation and less time, value for play and taking care of ourselves.
The reality is, if we want to increase the general well-being of our culture we need to stop the glorification of busy. Can we begin to accept that it’s also okay to lead a calmer and more joyful life?
Can we practice and learn to see others who are doing this, taking time for themselves, playing and finding enjoyment in life and rather than meeting them with judgment, practice seeing their joy and being happy for their happiness?
Ask yourself, what would the days, weeks and months ahead be like if there were more people who were encouraging of and genuinely happy for the good moments you experience in life? How would that make you feel? And how would it make you feel if you felt genuinely happy for Continue Reading →
Tuesday, February 23, 2016 · 2 Comments
We’ve all experienced it. It’s the moment we say something and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out we put our foot in our mouths and reaches to take them back, but it’s too late. The fact is we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps. But what if I told you there’s a way to fix this.
Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke we considered three questions:
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- Is it kind?
These a questions that one might say are inspired by the world’s wisdom traditions and have great relevance to our relationships in our families, friendships, business, and education today.
In this emerging world where we’re quick to fire off texts, tweets, Snapchats and Facebook messages, it might be more important than ever to Continue Reading →