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Monday, July 18, 2016 · Leave a comment
There seems to be a whole lot of mind troubling and heart wrenching news in the world today. The world’s current atmosphere can give our minds endless fuel to race, worry, and catastrophize.
When you turn on the news these days, it’s all disaster. These disasters are real, but the stories in our minds that the world is going to hell in a hand basket may not be. Our brains are designed to project into the future and attempt to predict the worst case scenarios so we can be prepared.
It doesn’t do us any good to continue in a state of auto-pilot with a hyperaroused nervous system, spreading worry, negativity and catastrophe throughout our social circle. Not only are our storylines a source of suffering, but spreading these catastrophic stories through our social networks creates an emotional contagious of emotional suffering.
We already get enough of that through the news. The news knows that our eyeballs get fused to the screen at signs of danger and plays on it so it can sell more soap. It’s a business and the bottom line is truly to make more money and it knows how to play on our concerns. This is the same for MSNBC, CNN, and Fox news – money has no party loyalty.
The news isn’t going to make a big fuss about the millions and millions of dollars going into mindfulness and compassion research globally, or about these police officers who paid the check of a Continue Reading →
Tuesday, June 14, 2016 · 7 Comments
People often ask me, when is the best time to bring mindfulness into your day and aside from saying, “anytime,” a great way to integrate mindfulness is with something we all have to do – eat!
It’s wonderful to bring mindfulness to eating, not only can this help us have a better relationship with food, but it can help us appreciate, savor and bring a whole lot more enjoyment to it.
Enjoy these Three Mindful Things to Do When You Eat
Tuesday, June 7, 2016 · 1 Comment
In the United States we’re heading into a potential turbulent political atmosphere that has the potential to be disrupting to even our closet relationships.
You may remember from past elections, it’s that moment we say something about some candidate or issue and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out that we have just ignited a fire that we won’t be able to put out. The fact is, especially when something is emotionally charged, we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps.
But there’s a way to optimize the way we communicate in this political climate.
Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke about politics we considered three questions:
Tuesday, May 24, 2016 · 2 Comments
Everyone at some point in their life will be affected by depression whether it’s their own or someone they are close to. Almost 19 million Americans alone have periods where they feel a lack of pleasure or interest their usual activities combined with feeling tired and heavy, potentially overly emotional or numb, and an onslaught of negative and self defeating thoughts that can keep invading the mind over and over again.
The more periods of this depressed mood we have in life, the more likely we are to fall back into them again. Why does this relapse occur and how can mindfulness offer hope?
Falling into a depression feels traumatic and just like getting bit by a dog causes us to be fearful of and oversensitive to dogs, our minds and bodies become oversensitive to associations with the depression causing us to react to any sign of it. Feeling low mood is normal for everyone, but if we’ve experienced depression in the past, this may be a trigger for thinking depression is about to set in again.
If we feel tired or if we notice sadness, the mind pops up with the worry “uh oh, that is how I felt when I was Continue Reading →
Tuesday, May 10, 2016 · 2 Comments
Vietnamese Buddhist monk and author Thich Nhat Hanh once said, “Peace in oneself, peace in the world.” Iconic singer and songwriter Michael Jackson wrote, “I’m lookin’ at the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer, if you wanna make the world a better place, just look at yourself and make a change.”
In The Now Effect you may have read about the science behind why everything you do matters,
The social scientists Nicholas Christakis, MD, PhD, and James Fowler, PhD, conducted a study to look at the effect of social networks. To determine if there was a causal relationship for obesity, they mapped the relationships of 12,067 people who had more than 50,000 connections to other people that were assessed repeatedly from 1971 to 2003 (not online social networks such as Facebook but physical networks of people). They found that, indeed, “birds of a feather flock together.” However, they found something much more interesting: obesity doesn’t start and stop with immediate friends and family; it is “contagious” by up to three degrees of separation.
They also went on to find that loneliness is contagious by three degrees and that each person you have in your life Continue Reading →