Before You Speak Let These Words Pass…

Tuesday, February 23, 2016 · 2 Comments

We’ve all experienced it. It’s the moment we say something and as the last syllables leave our lips our brain has figured out we put our foot in our mouths and reaches to take them back, but it’s too late. The fact is we often time don’t think before we speak. Our words become actions and actions become consequences. Unfortunately the consequences land us in relationship problems, a blown business deal, or just the general reinforcement of unhealthy mind traps. But what if I told you there’s a way to fix this.

Just consider, what would the days, weeks and months ahead look like if before we all spoke we considered three questions:

  • Is it true?
  • Is it necessary?
  • Is it kind?

These a questions that one might say are inspired by the world’s wisdom traditions and have great relevance to our relationships in our families, friendships, business, and education today.

In this emerging world where we’re quick to fire off texts, tweets, Snapchats and Facebook messages, it might be more important than ever to consider these questions. In fact, you might argue that we have more space to do so if we’re typing something out.

But I challenge you to bring this into your lives at home, work and within the internet.

Why not practice something that not only will make you feel good, but encourage others to do the same.

Imagine the ripple effects.


Elisha Goldstein, PhD

Author of Uncovering Happiness and Co-author of MBSR Every Day

Adapted from Mindfulness and Psychotherapy


  1. March 4, 2016 at 1:28 am


  2. February 24, 2016 at 8:42 am

    Some great questions that I admit I should ask myself more often. Sometimes we don’t think thoroughly about what we say before we say it, and end up saying something hurtful or untrue. Thanks for sharing this.

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